Posted by Toutz on December 18, 2000 at 09:17:02:
In Reply to: Need Help on becoming a (good)stepfather posted by wolfspirit on December 13, 2000 at 01:14:09:
: Okay, And hello. My fiance is a woman with three children. boy-15, girl-12, girl-12. I also have a daughter of my own , 9 yr old. The 9 yr old lives with her mother and I get to be with her as her girl scout leader and every other weekend.
: Things are going VERY well for my love and I. I want to know from you all what are the best steps to take to grow and develop a good relationship with the kids as well. The children's father hasn't seen them for three years so this Stepfathering will Will be very important. Any and all advice is needed and appriciated. I just found this site right now and missed the chatroom discussion....
Patience, lots and lots of it. Also remembering that there will be times when they are gonna say things that hurt you like you are not my dad. they are old enough to remember him. Be there for them, love them, support them. and most important listen to them.
Toutz